Rebuilding Self-Esteem & Confidence

There can be many reasons that your self-confidence is hurt. You may have had a bad marriage and now are heading for a divorce. You were not chosen for your colleges football team; you may have been laid off. Theres definitely a lot of pain involved in any of the situations. But you dont necessarily have to suffer. You must arise and resolve to get back your confidence.

Stop comparing yourself with other people

When we have a problem we always question God Oh, God, why me? Certainly God gave you a lot of rewards as well. Did you then get up and ask God Oh God, why me? Thats what human nature is all about. We complain and remember God when we are in trouble or else we are too busy with ourselves. Stop looking at other people who seem too happy and comfortable to you from a distance. Stop comparing their comfort with your suffering. This will only frustrate you further. Focus on yourself and make every effort you can make to go out whenever you are feeling down. Self-pity is very addictive and capable of destroying lives.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. The idea is to begin with a small single step that can then further developed into giant strides. Learn to do the work at hand rather than to overwhelm oneself by looking at the entirety of a mammoth looking task.

Just like the soil underneath your feet, the top of mountain too would someday be under your step. The only way to do something is to Go For It! No matter how small the progress is the focus should be on completing a task successfully even though its a small task. A series of big uncompleted task is a sure shot way to depression. Break a big task into a list of small tasks to be completed. Tick off from your list each job successfully completed. A completed task no matter how small it is gives a sense of achievement that boosts our confidence and equips us with more energy to try a bigger task.

If one follows the above things it may help him/her to bring back the much-needed positive approach towards life and will in regaining the self-esteem.